Ruth's 60 social clubs in 2 years: "A sense of community in this big city"

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Back in December 2015 on a chilly Sunday afternoon, I found myself watching It’s a Wonderful Life snuggled up with a cup of tea in one hand, a generous slice of carrot cake in the other and the company of my older neighbours. I had the pleasure of sitting next to a lovely man called Bert, who told me how classic black and white movies are infinitely better than any of the films these days and about his Christmas traditions (presents only to be opened after the Queen’s speech and a glass of brandy!). I had recently moved to London and felt a disconnect between my busy work life and the community I lived in. It felt strange not to know anyone who lived on the same street or borough or anything about the history of the area.

Two years on, I’ve discovered my creative side at arts and crafts club: painting abstracting pictures, attempting life drawing and making badges. I’ve written poems, short stories and stand-up comedy routines. I’ve learnt how to swing dance, struggled with contemporary dance and even mastered some basic salsa dance steps. However, more importantly than any of the activities, I’ve had the opportunity to get to know my older neighbours and feel a sense of community in this big city.

Social clubs are a place where everyone is happy to see you, and everyone is happy to talk. Whether it is catching up with a friend or chatting to someone who is there for the first time, each conversation is interesting and unique. I have learnt so much about London from talking to my older neighbours, and so much about how it has changed. Anthony has also expanded my general knowledge as he is able to reel off every capital city in the world, Omi has taught me how to meditate properly and Marguerita gives the best hugs and has the best smile.

There is no age restriction on feeling lonely: anyone can can be isolated at any age. Research shows that loneliness and social isolation are harmful to our health: lacking social connections is a comparable risk factor for early death as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, and is worse for us than well-known risk factors such as obesity and physical inactivity. That’s why South London Cares is so important and that’s why I’ll keep returning to have a cup of tea, a good natter and a biscuit. I genuinely feel richer for the experience.