South London Cares is a local organisation that works across Southwark and Lambeth. We connect younger neighbours (normally in their twenties, thirties and forties) to older neighbours so they can share time, skills and stories and feel better connected to their community. We do this because south London can be an isolating place for younger and older neighbours alike. Our city is constantly changing, and our neighbourhoods and communities are continually transforming. We want to make sure everyone feels part of this brilliant city, not left behind by it.
We bring younger and older neighbours together to share their stories, knowledge and skills and to make new friends in our local areas. We hope you’ll enjoy our free activities and programmes and you’ll have the chance to meet people who you might have never crossed paths with. What we especially hope you’ll get out of our programmes is great conversation, lots of laughter, and brilliant new friendships. We’d love you to share your stories, jokes, skills and experiences with your new friends – it really is people like you that make the events the fun that they are.
As a nationwide organisation, The Cares Family have three key objectives that we hope to meet through our programmes:
The Cares Family
The Cares Family started as a tiny idea in North London and over nine years we’ve grown into a national leader with charities all across the UK. We have North London Cares, South London Cares, Manchester Cares, Liverpool Cares and East London Cares. The Cares Family brings people together in local communities, and it’s why we are expanding our work to try to change the systems and cultures that cause our disconnection crisis.
At South London Cares we have five key values that are very important to all of us. These values guide and shape everything we do and we strive for them to be shared by all those in our communities and networks.
(Content warning: this section includes material which references racism and discrimination, and examples of microaggressions)
South London Cares are committed to tackling racism, and to supporting the end of systemic racism in our communities and wider society. We understand that we cannot achieve our objectives – reducing loneliness, improving connection and resilience, and bridging divides in our community – without being an anti-racist organisation.
We strive to create a welcoming and enjoyable environment that is safe for everyone to be themselves. We want to make sure everyone feels valued on our programmes – no matter their race, sexuality, gender, age, ability, or religion/beliefs.
We do not, therefore, tolerate discrimination of any kind on our programmes. If any discriminatory behaviour occurs during a South London Cares activity, our staff team will address it swiftly and directly with those involved.
South London Cares believes in “calling in” rather than calling out racism and other acts of discrimination. This means challenging acts of discrimination as they occur – so long as it is safe to do so – and giving members of our network the opportunity to recognise, apologise for and learn from shortfalls in their conduct.
We encourage all our neighbours to call in acts of discrimination, and even more so in support of one another. In any case, a staff member will address the incident as quickly as possible once they have been alerted to it.
What will happen if a neighbour says or does something racist or discriminatory?
If you witness, are made uncomfortable or are upset by any behaviour during a South London Cares activity, we encourage you to let a member of the team know. A staff member will then swiftly address the incident by calling in the neighbour involved. We will update you on the outcome of this and discuss if you require any further support for the hurt you may have experienced.
If a neighbour says or does something racist or discriminatory, a member of staff from South London Cares will talk to them about what happened, either in person or over the phone. The member of staff will share learning to explain why what happened is hurtful and offensive. This conversation will be followed by a letter or email confirming the outcome of the conversation and how the incident will be resolved, accompanied with further resources to aid their learning.
Any overtly discriminatory behaviour – for example, the intentional use of slurs and derogatory remarks — will automatically result in a temporary or permanent ban from all South London Cares programmes. The type of ban will depend on the neighbour’s response to being called in, and whether they apologise and acknowledge the hurt their behaviour has (or can) caused.
Any discriminatory act that is ‘subtle’ will result in a formal warning, dependent on an apology from the neighbour and a demonstrable commitment to learn and change as a result of the incident. Refusing to apologise or multiple formal warnings may result in a temporary or permanent ban from all South London Cares programmes.
What is a ‘subtle’ act of discrimination?
Subtle acts of discrimination – also called microaggressions – are remarks, questions or actions that communicate negative or stereotyped attitudes towards people who belong to marginalised groups based on their race, sexuality, gender, ability, age or religion/beliefs. They may be intentional or accidental, but either way, they can be very harmful to people who experience them, and perpetuate systemic discrimination of these groups.
Often people may not realise they are making a microaggressive comment or act. For example, during a conversation at a Social Club, a neighbour may ask another neighbour who is black, “where are you from?” It may be that the neighbour asking the question is interested in where the neighbour grew up or what their heritage is. But asking the question in this way suggests that the black neighbour cannot be from the UK because of their race, and so communicates the harmful – and incorrect – attitude that people who are not white do not belong in the UK.
It may be that the neighbour in this example didn’t mean to cause any offence. However, it is important to remember that the impact of what is said or done is more important than the intent. If you accidentally trod on someone’s foot, you’d apologise, even though you didn’t mean to. Microaggressions are no different.
Other examples of microaggressions include:
How did you respond to the COVID-19 pandemic?
South London Cares suspended our face-to-face programmes on 13th March 2020, before the first lockdown, to protect our community.
After a few weeks, we had established a new programme of Virtual Social Clubs and accompanying support for neighbours to access the online world remotely; set up a telephone friendship programme, Phone a Friend, so younger and older neighbours could continue to connect one-to-one; and called hundreds of older neighbours to check on their wellbeing and connect them to vital support, working in partnership with various organisations in Southwark and Lambeth.
The pandemic has been a challenging time for all our neighbours. However, our response taught us the value of providing younger and older neighbours with opportunities to connect online or over the phone, which we will continue to offer through our new mix of in-person and virtual programmes.
How are you ensuring your programmes are safe?
The safety, comfort and wellbeing of our neighbours is our first priority at South London Cares. We will have COVID-19 safety measures – in line with government guidance and scientific advice – in place at our Social Clubs and on our other programmes. These include wearing a mask or visor when appropriate and washing your hands regularly with hand sanitiser provided.
Since guidelines are subject to change and all our programmes are a bit different, each programme will provide you with more specific guidance when you take part. If you ever have any questions about this guidance, please get in touch.
We also ask you to follow current NHS Test & Trace protocols and update us if you test positive for coronavirus (COVID-19) or develop coronavirus (COVID-19) symptoms after coming to a Social Club, completing a Love Your Neighbour visit or attending an Outreach event, so we can alert other neighbours and members of the team.
We meet our older neighbours in all sorts of ways. They may refer themselves through our website, we might receive their details from their GP or social worker who thinks they need a little extra company or it could be that we’ve met them out and about through our outreach work. We speak to all the neighbours who are referred to our programmes to check that it’s right for them.
Our older neighbours are usually in their 60s, 70s or 80s and have lived in our city for a long time. They’ve got deep roots but it can look a little different after changing rapidly over the last few years. This can feel alienating and usually, people want to take part in our programmes because they’re looking for that connection to their city again.
Other things our neighbours may be experiencing:
South London Cares has a responsibility to keep everyone in our community safe, and to prevent abuse and neglect.
Anyone can be a victim of abuse or neglect. However, due to certain personal circumstances – such as living with an illness or disability, living alone or being in receipt of care – some members of our network are more at risk than others. It is important, therefore, that you keep an eye out for your neighbours and report any concerns you have.
What is abuse or neglect?
There are several types of abuse:
People responsible for abuse are often known to the victim – it could be a friend or family member, or a paid care worker – and take advantage of their relationship. Abuse may be a single or repeated act, and it may be deliberate or unintentional, for example, if a person doesn’t have the right skills to care for someone. Whatever the circumstances, abuse is never acceptable – no one should have to suffer it.
What should I do if someone shares information about their circumstances which worries me?
It can be very challenging to have a conversation with a neighbour who is a victim of abuse or neglect. However, it is important to listen, provide reassurance and not pass judgement, as it may be the first time they have felt prepared to disclose this information and do something about the situation they are in.
Rather than being told something directly by a neighbour, you may also notice something, such as an injury or poor hygiene.
Friendships at South London Cares are built on trust. However, it is crucial that you never promise to keep something worrying a neighbour has shared with you confidential. You must report your concerns, however small, to South London Cares staff as soon as possible. You should not seek to investigate anything shared with you or to gather additional details — your role is to share what has been disclosed with you with a South London Cares member of staff so that the appropriate support can be provided. Although it is important for a victim of abuse to have control over decisions that affect them, it is also paramount that any concerns are reported promptly so the necessary steps can be taken to protect the neighbour and prevent further potential abuse or neglect.
Our role at South London Cares is to report safeguarding concerns to the social services at the relevant local authority so they can investigate, and to the police if the neighbour is in imminent danger or a crime has been committed. It is not our role to intervene – for example, by challenging the abuser or by investigating the claims – but to support the neighbour throughout this process.
South London Cares loves to share some of the amazing stories about friendship and connection in our network. These include posting the lovely things people have said at our social clubs on social media or sharing a story of a friendship made on our Love Your Neighbour programme on our website.
We share these stories through our social media, our website and sometimes in the press. From time to time, our development team may also use stories from the community to help us get funding from trusts and foundations or to inspire corporate partners and fundraisers to support our work.
How do I consent to storytelling?
When you sign up and attend an induction, we will ask you to consent to having your photograph taken or being filmed. We will only use photos and video recordings of you in our storytelling if you consent to us doing so.
If you initially consent but change your mind later, that is absolutely fine. Please let a member of staff know.
How can I be involved in storytelling opportunities?
We feel so lucky that we can share stories from our community. We are always for neighbours to get involved in our storytelling, whether it be your life story in a blog, or talking about your own experiences of loneliness and the connection you’ve found at South London Cares. If you wish to share something, please contact a member of the team and we can help you share your story.
Sharing stories on social media
We’d love you to shout about our work and your own experience on our programmes on social media. If you do, please tag us so that we can share the love! But please remember not to share photos of other people from social clubs, as you will not have consent from them to do so.
How do I get involved in media opportunities?
From time to time, we receive requests from both local and national press to cover our programmes and speak to neighbours. We will always inform you in advance if a particular activity, for example a social club, will be filmed or recorded for the press. There is no pressure to be involved if you are not comfortable being featured: let a member of staff know and please don’t worry about saying no.
This year, we’re also trialling a new programme called Community Champions, providing media training, professional photos and storytelling opportunities in the press as well as on our websites and social media channels. If you are interested in taking part, please contact [email protected]
Why else do you collect stories?
Storytelling is also a great way for us to understand what difference our programmes make to our neighbours. From time to time, we will also invite neighbours to take part in evaluations of our programmes, such as interviews. Our evaluation work is a great chance for you to share stories that help us understand whether we’re achieving our objectives, so we can be accountable to our neighbours, partners and funders.
South London Cares always welcomes feedback about what we’re doing well and what we could improve. You can always contact a member of staff if you have feedback, whether this be a suggestion about how to improve an activity or compliment about a particular event.
We also understand that there may be times when someone is unhappy about the standards of our programmes, actions or lack of action by the organisation or our staff team, and will wish to make a complaint.
How to make a complaint
Complaints can be made in person, in writing, by email, by telephone, by social and digital media, or via the contact form on the South London Cares website. A complaint should be raised as soon as possible after the event and will usually only be considered if it is about something that took place in the last 12 months.
When you make a complaint, it will be acknowledged quickly, sensitively and empathetically. If you are making a complaint on behalf of someone else, it is important that you have their permission to share any information with us.
A complaint can be made informally by speaking to the relevant staff member or by contacting the Head of Programmes at South London Cares. The Head of Programmes will acknowledge the complaint within no less than two working days and quickly arrange to speak to you, so we can better understand the situation in order to come to an acceptable resolution. Once we have spoken to everyone involved in the complaint, we will aim to correct the issue as swiftly as possible and update you.
If you are not satisfied with the explanation given or the proposed action, or if we feel that the complaint requires further investigation, then we will start a formal complaints procedure. A complaint will always be handled formally if you request this from the start, or when allegations are serious or an incident has put someone in harm’s way. Every formal complaint will be investigated fully and quickly within 10 working days of South London Cares receiving the complaint. We will then respond in writing within a further five working days, letting you know whether the complaint has been upheld, and if appropriate, apologising and identifying lessons learnt and actions that have been or will be taken to minimise a similar issue happening again, as well what to do if you are unhappy with our response. If you have any questions about our complaints procedure, please contact the Head of Programmes, Harry at [email protected].
What are Social Clubs?
Our Social Clubs are free activities that take place both face-to-face and remotely and bring older (65+) and younger people from across Southwark and Lambeth together for fun, laughter, friendship and new experiences. Your role at clubs is simple – to be a friendly face, listening ear, and get stuck into the activity.
Our face-to-face Social Clubs take place in different venues such as pubs, cafes, galleries, community centres and community gardens which change every month. Our clubs aim to bust stereotypes that surround older and younger people and are different each month – examples of clubs we’ve hosted are brunch clubs, seated yoga, pub quizzes and local history clubs. Sometimes clubs are also hosted by a younger or older neighbour, or community partner.
We began hosting Social Clubs remotely (such as over Zoom and telephone) as a response to Covid-19, and these are likewise fun activities with older and younger people, with different activities every month. These can be a great option for older neighbours who would like more social company, but face challenges getting out and about. Our chatty telephone Social Clubs also mean neighbours in our network without digital access can take part too.
How to sign up:
After you’ve attended a volunteer induction, you will receive an email from the Volunteer and Outreach Coordinator during the 2nd and 4th weeks of the month, with a link to input your date of birth and sign up to our upcoming Social Clubs. There is no minimum or maximum number of Social Clubs you have to attend, meaning you can volunteer flexibly around your schedule. At every club, there will always be a member of the South London Cares team there who is First Aid trained, and on-hand to answer any questions you may have. We tend to take photos at our Social Clubs, so please do let a member of the team know if you would prefer not to have your photo taken.
A few things to remember:
There are a few things we ask of volunteers at Social Clubs:
If you like to meet up with an older neighbour outside of Social Clubs, please read about our Love Your Neighbour programme below.
What is it?
This is where we make a friendship match between an older and younger neighbour. Friendships are based on personality and mutual interests — if you love cups of tea and crime documentaries, we want to match you with someone who you’ll be able to natter away with!
This programme is particularly for older neighbours who find it harder to leave their homes or are otherwise socially isolated. A friendship through Love Your Neighbour provides a new opportunity for a little company and companionship each week.
What is required of me?
This programme requires more commitment from volunteers, it’s not a one-off in the same way as a Social Club, you will be required to visit or speak to an older neighbour regularly each week. You can decide how this looks, whether it’s two-three 20 minute phone calls each week, or a one hour visit to sit at home with them, whatever works for you and we’ll match you with someone looking for a similar thing.
Friendships are mutually beneficial so the younger neighbour doesn’t help with any practical tasks; your main role is to be a friend and enjoy connecting with an older neighbour. As staff, we follow up on any support needs the older neighbour may have and make referrals/signposts to other organisations.
How do I apply?
We have a separate application form for you to fill in, which gives us an opportunity to get to know you more and helps us to make a great friendship match. Matt will send you the link to the form following your induction, but you can also contact him at [email protected] if you have any questions or would like to be sent it again.
Our Outreach programme is how we get the word out to older neighbours and build up our network of people involved in our programmes. This includes striking up conversations in pharmacies, GP waiting rooms and community centres, and also building relationships with community partners who can refer to us. As well as welcoming older neighbours into our programmes to meet their younger neighbours, we also help neighbours overcome barriers they may face to social connection. This includes:
We also build up our network of volunteers through our Outreach programme, spreading the word about our programmes, encouraging people to get involved, and running regular inductions.
Fundraising for South London Cares is a great way to make a difference to your older neighbours. With all of our events – from runs, to bake sales, to gigs, to pub quizzes, to dinners – there is a fun and vibrant atmosphere. And together, we can tackle isolation and loneliness in Southwark and Lambeth.
How can I get involved?
There are three main ways to help us to make our older neighbours feel valued, vibrant and visible in this rapidly changing city:
My company has a charitable arm. Can I get South London Cares involved?
Of course! We’d love to work with your business. If you have a charity of the year, please consider nominating South London Cares. Or maybe you have a Payroll Giving scheme, and can donate to us through this? Or maybe your company has a charitable foundation to which we could apply for funding. With any of these, you could help tackle isolation and loneliness across Southwark and Lambeth. And in return, there’d be plenty of ways to get involved with us. From team volunteering days to supporting us with skills in-kind, your company would really see the difference they are making. Please email Leonie at [email protected] for more information on how your business could partner with South London Cares.
What’s a Social Club Volunteer Organiser / Facilitator
We train a handful of our most committed volunteers to become Volunteer Organisers: they take on extra responsibility and run their own social clubs, without South London Cares' staff present. This plays a big part in tackling isolation and loneliness: reaching new areas, supporting older neighbours we’ve not yet met, and adding more variety to our programme of events.
In return, our Volunteer Organisers have the opportunity to form deeper relationships with their older neighbours and fellow volunteers, and we give them all of the training, tools and support they need to run activities they’re really proud of.
I have skills to offer at a social club! Who should I contact?
Whether you’re a yoga teacher, musician, photographer, jive expert or craft extraordinaire, we’d love to hear from you if you have skills you’d like to share at a social club. Our volunteers’ skills and generosity help us to keep our programme diverse. You can use our Contact Us page to get in touch or email our Social Clubs Coordinator, Enoch, at [email protected] if you’d like to lead a session. If you have any other questions about social clubs, we’d love to hear from you: get in touch.
Outreach volunteering: Helping older neighbours with technology
We know that some of our older neighbours can sometimes find it difficult to access the digital world - something that has been highlighted even more during the COVID 19 outbreak. As a way of tackling this, we’re looking for volunteers to help out older neighbours navigate through the digital world to help bridge this divide.
We would welcome volunteers who have 1 to 2 hours a week or fortnight who can help older neighbours with tasks like setting up an email account, downloading Zoom, and general upskilling online.
If you want to find out how the project works get in touch with Volunteer and Outreach Coordinator, Matt at [email protected] — we’d love to chat with you!
Whilst we would like to provide all first training to all neighbours within the South London Cares’ network, the cost of the training and the number of neighbours involved in our programmes means that we are not able to do so.
All South London Cares' core staff are emergency first aid trained. If you are in a situation where there is a member of staff present and first aid is required, then please inform them immediately.
Should you find yourself in a situation requiring first aid and South London Cares’ staff are not present, call 999 and they will advise you accordingly.
If you are keen to learn more about emergency first aid then the British Red Cross provide a variety of training options. You can also download the British Red Cross First Aid App. The app provides simple first aid skills and step-by-step instructions to help you provide emergency first aid. Once downloaded, you do not need internet connection to be able to access the content.